In our extremely busy world, quality time with our children is often overlooked or pushed to the side. However, our children deserve this quality time. The time spent with them will be much more memorable and valuable than the extra load of laundry you were able to do or the news broadcast you focused on. Make an effort to implement these 3 daily habits to reconnect with your children. You will never get this time back with them, so intentionally implement these habits to make long-lasting memories and connections.
Habit #1- Practice screen-free meals together
With busy schedules, it may be difficult to sit down and eat every meal together, but try to pick one (usually breakfast or dinner for most families) where everyone can sit down and eat together. This time should also be screen-free to avoid distractions and solely focus on your together time. Turn off the TV and put away the phones, tablets, and iPad. Instead share things about your day. I have heard some families that like to do roses and thorns. Share one good thing (rose) and one thing that made you feel sad (thorn). This could be a great way to get your child to share things they are going through at school in an authentic way. Lastly, make sure you are all EATING together. Sometimes it is difficult for all food to be prepared for sitting, but children should see you modeling things like eating with utensils, table manners, table conversation, etc. Slow down and enjoy these small moments with your family. You will learn to love it too!
Habit #2- Have at least one uninterrupted, meaningful eye-to-eye conversation with each child
As I mentioned before, life is busy so slowing down and talking to your child without multitasking can be difficult. Children of all ages need us to slow down, look them in the eye, and feel that what they have to say is important. Get down on their level and talk to them about their favorite things, a funny story that happened to them at school, etc. Let them guide the conversation and keep asking questions. This short conversation with your undivided attention will make them feel heard and loved. It will eventually be one of your favorite parts of your day!
Habit #3- Show your child more physical affection
Ever heard of Love Languages? Well many people have the love language of physical touch, especially children! Intentionally add more high-fives, hugs, cuddles, hand-holding, etc. to your day with them. Did you know that there are two critical times of day that children need physical touch? Right when they awake in the morning and right before they go to bed at night are important times for children to receive physical affection. Reading together in their bed is the perfect addition to their bed time routine.
